Topic Tuesday..Weddings and Award shows.

When we were given this weeks topic I did not do my normal kaveching that I always do because I thought this would be lighthearted fun topic. Boy was I wrong folks were having angina over it.

I normally do not do awards shows and I decided to watch the Grammys on this past Sunday night. There was only two reasons why I wanted to watch it one for Mackelmore and Ryan Lewis preform and two to watch what was originally planned as 33 same sex couples get married. I was like that is going to be epic. To say it was not would have been telling half truths.

To me the majority of the show was long and long. But when they got to Mackelmore, Ryan Lewis and Mary Lambert singing Same Love   I got all misty eyed I will admit.  I adore the song and the message that comes with it.

When Queen Latifah walked back out on stage and preformed the ceremony I did cry it was the most single beautiful sight of love I have every seen. The only thing that kinda scared me was they brought out the Krypt keeper , I am sorry it was Madonna who looked like death warmed over and dressed up.

To me that was the best Grammy show ever just for that. For those of you who kavetched it was not about the awards in my eye but it was showing the world that no matter who you love that we all share in the same love.

Ok I am going back in the corner now. 

Self promoting

Morning to all.

Now this week topic is a bit odd for me cause one it am not a writer nor can I write.  So self pronto it what can a person do to promote themselves when they have a book published. Ok well besides social media which a lot of authors do. I say if you can do a few book conventions a year and book fairs. Get some cards made up with your website , Facebook, google plus pages of you have one. Blog about it join a blogging group. 

I say check with your local LGBTQI associations and see what events they have. Try to get your self there as a guest or speaker. Check out the local universities Gay/Straight alliance groups to go as a speak or donate books. 

Maybe I am wrong but try getting gay adult erotic performers interested in reading your book or visiting your site by showing them what you as an MM author and the community has done. Try putting a small add in some of the leading magazines if you have the cash. 

Get a shirt, bag or hat made up with your cover or site on it. As an establish author or up an coming author you have to  be willing to self sell yourself.  Being an author is not just about writing but selling your self to the masses. 

The MM community is a small community but with the right marketing tool it can become bigger. So  work it  become a self promoting pimp. Pimp your work don't feel that your publishing company will do it for you. You have to want it more than they do. 

So I wonder what the Merry band of misfits I know have to say on this weeks topics. 

The Good The Bad and The Ugly of 2013

Well folks here we are another year to an end yeah right ( sarcasm  runeth over). Today our dreamless leaders ask what is was good and bad about your year of 2013.  Well I know I might make folks angry but it's life.

The good my oldest child graduating from Henry Street Schools for international Studies. Here on the  Lower East Side of NYC. The boy did me proud and now he is a freshman at SUNY Oswego. The other good news is my middle baby is in middle school. The adjustment is hard but I have faith he will be fine.

The bad where  the hell should I begin ...filing for divorce on the day my oldest graduated, getting ill with an illness thy can't pinpoint and now having my youngest son father sue me for custody. Yeah my year is ending with a bang.

The Ugly basically me I have found I need to fix me before I can look for love an acceptance. So my resolution this year is not to share things with folks near or far. To deal with all medical and other issues on my own. So that is how my year was. How was yours. 

Favorite things to cure the holidays blues

Joyeux Noël

Now when your fearless leader gave us this assignment on what cure your holiday blues. I was like ok cool until I read the rest of this post and then was like I so do not need to know about what the Red headed Granny was trying to put up Alan's ass...

So here is what help me during the holidays first I start with a large cup of Java  then I put on the Thin Man movie staring William Powell and Myrna Loy and watch the whole series I have DVD " hush it Kage" yes I know not blu ray heavens to Betsy.  Then from there my sister who house I am at makes the kids a light lunch..me more coffee now after watching the thin man series..the kids play the WII sports and I read then we watch Allister Simms A Christmas Carol. Followed by dinner...four after dinner dinks for me with alcohol then dessert and finally a Charlie Brown Christmas. 

But this year things are different I am not going to be at my sisters for I do not have the energy to deal with family this year and plus I do not have enough alcohol in my house to take with me. So me and the boys will be home. But I would do all the same things here so all is goo in my world. So that is how I cure my holiday blues..what do you all do?

So on that note I wish you all 
A Merry Christmas
Vrolijk kerstfeest, Hyvää Joulua,Frohe Weihnachten, Jwaye Nwèl and ¡Feliz Navidad

The Basterdization of Thanksgiving and the greed of Black Friday.

This post might not be all that riveting but I will give it the old college try.

When Jeff posted this weeks topic about store being open on thanksgiving and Black Friday I was like ha ha... But then I actually had to sit back and say this is why I loathed the begin jog of the holiday season. The spirt of thanksgiving is supposed to be about family, love ones and being thankful that we all have that time to spend with one another.  Incoming years it's has not been about that in our society, I have seen women plan their holidays around the stuff for Black Friday. I mean they go on line in stoner to see of they can get a sneak peak at Black Friday deals. They even plan where the family will be so they can be at the nearest target, Walmart, jcpenny, kamart, toysrus  for those door buster sales. That's not for me I mean my sister loves doing things like that I did it once with her*we will get back to that in a moment *.

Now my opinion about store being open on a holiday *except for the supermarket* and they close early so that the staff can be with their family..But noooo big box stores now have to say we need money folks like to spend on things they don't need..yes yes we will get more money by sudecing their inner greed. Is it right hell no but hey money is money and the big box stores don't care if they are getting blood money.  Walmart is the worst offender of any big store in this damn country. The way they treat their employees is horrid. They pay them yes true slave wages 90 percent of all Walmart employees are receiving government benefits to help them survived because Walmart is too damn greedy and cheap to give them a living wage. Walmart USA will not let their employees join a union and  but yet ifwalmart wants to open a store in a foreign country they have to let the employees unionized but not her.

Walmart tried to open a store here innNYC and they pulled out all the stops and even had Emperor Bloomberg in their corner and the city co uncle put an end to those plans because they said due to the fact you will not let your employees unionized we cannot let you in.  You see bloomers is not a fan of unions and he is seen as trying to be a union buster. So that was one of the good things the NYC city council did for it's people.

Another reason why I am not a fan of Walmart is the fact a security guard lost his life because of the Black Friday mobs. Walmart did not hire enough security to man the front doors. When the crowd rushed in the young man was trampled to death. Walmart stated it was the victim fault he got killed and they were not paying the fine.

But most of all the folks are to blame to get wrapped up in that frenzy of  $88 flat panel tv was it worth it. I mean fighting over parking spaces where a 66 year old man sliced another diver down to the bone because of a damn parking space.  When hearing and reading about things like this makes me wonder what the hell has happen to us as human beings and where is the humanity that I thought all of us were raised with.

Ok so my Black Friday story happend a few years ago I was at my sister's in Jersey for one thing I am so not a morning person and with out my coffee you can call me Satan's wife. She woke me up at three so we can get to JC penny for some damn Black Friday sale. We get to the store we are standing in line like crazy people. When the line started moving these lovely middle age suburban soccer moms started pushing like they were about to sell out the last pair of implants. I asked the woman nicely not to push the dyed job ignore and keep pushing well the last time she pushed me she got a cup of scalding hot coffee down her blouse. With the dyed job screaming and her equally dyed job and booked enhanced friend yelling I looked at my sister and never again will I do this and this is why I shop in February.

Ok folks I think I gave you my view check and see what the rest of the crew had to say on this subject.

Later folks.

Description vs. Dialogue

So when we got this weeks topic. I was a bit huffed. I was a little surprised by it. I had showed someone what I had written and they had said good description but where is the dialogue. I was like I can't do that I don't know how the person was like if you can write a face book post you can do it.

My issue is I can tell you the story but can't tell you the story. I can tell you what's going on but not in how the characters is suppose to do it.  So there that is my dilemma .

Ok I was not gonna post but since I had time I between cooking four birds I said why the hell not.

What are your issues with dialogue and description.

Problems and solutions

Morning can I call it a good morning we will see. So when our fearless leader posted this weeks topic I was like ok but I don't have the time to write because I will be resting and cooking AT&T he same time..yeah yeah I know the two don't fit so sue me. For those of you hip who know me know I have kids and I normally cook for the school holidays. Well this year I lonely have to cook for two schools yeah cause the oldest is in college but that does not mean it is an easy tasks. So hence my issue of cooking and writing this post.

So after hobbling around on a bum hip all day Monday gathering and not trying to kill shoppers I have all the stuff I needed for today's meal . I was like let me put the side of beef ribs in the oven timer it and take a nap. So my ass has been up since four cooking I will tell you the rest of what I am cooking at the end.

So now I figured what the hell let me get this over with before Adkins sic Alan on me. I swear them two are just ugh slave drivers. As you can see problem one done .

Now problem two how in the blue blazes I am going to get all theis damn food over to a school on a bum hip hence problem number two and no I ain't got a damn clue. But I am as resourceful as Mcguyver and I will find a way to get said viddles there.

I am as independent asthma comes with certain things in my life. I am not a person big on asking for help. I would rather  give you my help and what have not then to ask for it. I am trying to learn how to deal with that problem. But folks it is hard for me to ask for help. I am just use to doing things on my own. I know those of you who hold that special "family" place in my heart that I know if I needed you all would be there in some shape form or fashion. But I still can't ask y'all to come, I will get there but it will take cause I know we all need a little help once in a while.

Ok enough of this emotional sappy shit. How the fuck am I going to get: two long bans of beef ribs, turkey wings, chicken, stuffing, mashed potatoes and cake to my kids school?
Any ideas folks?

So what and how have you learned to deal with problems and issues when they run smack dab into your life?